We found this posting on the RWG forum from “Smooth Operator”, and had to share it. This is an excellent article to look at when looking for a Russian bride, or even just deciding to get into Russian dating. Word of caution: this is not necessarily MY opinion…. but I do think the content here will give you something to think about.
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Gentlemen, we have all read and understood RWG’s Tablets Of Stone, which I contend is more pertinent for the initial stages of a distant correspondence relationship with a Russian woman. The Tablets are helpful to prevent newbies from falling into simple money traps, most likely an alleged female correspondent who is actually Yuri trying to scam gullible men. If you are a regular user of RW Guide, chances are that you are smart enough not to have sent money before meeting any woman in person first. That, however, is an easy scam to uncover, and you will find later on that scams can be far more complex. Always remember that countries of the former Soviet Union are poor societies built on dishonesty, with liars, thieves and scammers everywhere. There are real women in cahoots with shady agencies, and there are also gold diggers and professional daters to stay alert for.
Forget about Yuri posing as a woman online. You are smart enough to uncover that scam. You verify your correspondent’s identity and send her flowers, or you employ the services of a third party or even a detective to prove her identity. So what? That does not mean Sexy Olga has no intentions of cleaning out your wallet, or to get jewelry, fine dinners, expensive vacations and expensive goods at your expense. No man wants to be used like that, so I have devised my own version of The Tablets Of Stone to help prevent that.
1. Look Out For #1!
2. Always Remember Rule #1
3. Never Lose Control Of Your Emotions
4. Pay Yourself First
5. Be Prepared Financially To Pay Even More
6. Do not Try To Buy Her Love
7. Do not Be So Gullible
8. Do not Be So Accommodating
9. Do not Propose If You Did Not Have Sex With Her
10. Do not Be Afraid To Walk Away
These rules can provide valuable ideas for men to avoid mistakes in honest relationships, and they can be applied to all relationships everywhere. If you follow these Tablets of Smooth, you will find yourself more in control of your relationships, and you would be a professional dater’s nightmare.
Rule #1: Look Out For #1!
This is your foundation, the bedrock fundamental that should always be in the center of your mind. Guys, if you will only learn one thing from my thousandth post–and from all one thousand posts before this one–it will be this one. You can read every one of my posts and come to this theme more often than any other.
The Greatest Love Of All is “learning to love yourself.” Never lose sight of the fact that taking care of yourself should be your top priority in life. Your own life comes before anybody else’s. I do not care how large your woman’s breasts are, or if she is sexier than Raquel Welch in her 20′s. Do not skip the gym because you have a lunch date with her, do not compromise your credit card payment to buy her a very expensive birthday present, do not drop out of grad school to spend more time with her. Never, ever sacrifice anything that is fundamentally important to you and your welfare just because you love her, you claim. As God Himself proclaimed, “Thou Shalt Have No Other Gods Before Me,” I proclaim that you shall have no woman before yourself. Your first responsibility in life is to yourself, and there are no exceptions to this rule. Not one!
Among doing good things to yourself to constantly improve your own life, looking out for #1 includes staying in good physical shape by exercising and eating well, too. I mandate proper diet and regular exercise in the School of Smooth. Go to the gym at least every other day, be athletic and strong, and strive for lean body weight. As a goal, your belt should measure at least ten inches smaller than your chest, and your lower body must be proportionate; the only way you can do that is through regular exercise and proper diet. Believe me, your ability to attract women will increase dramatically if you have the perfect body. These may seem superficial, but I contend that the good things you do for yourself should cover all facets of your life: your mind, body and soul.
Rule #2: Always Remember Rule #1
Oddly enough, people already know this, but after getting involved with a beautiful woman, men often forget about their first responsibility to themselves, and they either bend this rule or forget it completely because they are so whipped. You must get yourself into the habit of first questioning everything you do, why you do it, and abstaining from doing anything detrimental to your life. People who understand Rule #1 will certainly agree with me, but unless they apply it to themselves daily it becomes merely a pep-up until they see a blonde with large breasts walk by. Mastering this rule would almost seem to make you self-centered, but this is good. Being self-centered means you are constantly looking out for #1, and that means you have successfully mastered this rule.
We are all creatures of habit, and you know what your habits are. There are good habits and there are bad habits. The good habits are things you relentlessly do to improve your life either because you have consciously committed them to yourself, or because you instinctively know this already. People who maintain these good habits follow Rule #2, as they are constantly aware of self-improvement. As people become more aware of what is good for their lives, bad habits gradually disappear. One personal goal in life is to attain a strong mind, body and soul. Excel in all areas in your life, because having the total package would maximize your chances of success anywhere, whether you seek penetration, marriage, or whatever.
Rule #3: Never Lose Control Of Your Emotions
This is precisely what professional daters and gold diggers are hoping will happen to you. They prey on men who are so emotionally weak that they will open up their life savings for them. They will play games with you, even sleep with you, all to get more money and gifts from you. It’s all a game, and they just want your money. They will not care if you commit suicide after they break your heart.
Men who lose control of their emotions often do stupid things in the name of love. They buy cars, large diamond rings, apartments, furs, and other material goods. This is the critical point of any mission for the professional dater, certainly one you need to be wary of. Once you lose control of your emotions, you’ve lost the game. You will become an ASM (Air Supply mutha) and a very easy target for gold diggers. Once you fall in love with her, you are at her mercy, and your fate becomes a roll of the dice. Hopefully for your sake your chips will not fall on a gold-digger or professional dater, because in that case you would be a sitting duck, and not even God can help you.
If you are a man in complete control of your emotions, you will never fall in love so easily. As strong as your feelings may be for her, if you know she is not good for you, you are staying with her because you are madly in love. I do not care how deep her throat is, dude, if I were you I wouldn’t stay with her if she prove to be a financial and emotional drain. You may think that she is “the one and only one,” but realize you are declaring that in an infatuated state of mind. Though euphoric, falling in love is a dangerous state of mind that lowers your defenses and leaves you extremely vulnerable. Never, ever get yourself into this vulnerable state of mind soon after you meet Sexy Olga.
Rule #4: Pay Yourself First
As a man, your primary financial expectation is to become richer every year. At the end of every calendar year, do an annual report on yourself. You should be richer in terms of net worth at the end of every year. You certainly do not want to be fifty years old, bankrupt, overweight, bald, alcoholic, and delivering pizzas during the day and working the graveyard shift at 7-Eleven as a convenience store clerk. Those losers should be put to sleep.
You should have a retirement account set up (e.g., 401k, IRA, Roth IRA, etc.), and you must contribute the maximum each year. Consider this an absolutely necessary expense, because after the contribution deadline, that is a contribution year forever gone, and you will regret it twenty or thirty years later after you compute the math on the money your account would have grown to had you made the contributions you missed. You should have a six-figure net worth by the time you are 35, and seven figures by the time you are 50.
Not surprisingly, every man’s sense of worth is invariably attributed directly to his financial net worth. A man with a large bank account is more confident than a man living on hundreds of thousands of credit-card debt. Money gives men confidence in themselves, as a man’s large net worth would be a testament to his will. Because wealthy men are savvy enough to control their money and not let money control them, the issues of a Russian woman–or any other woman for that matter–is nothing to worry about. Compare the dispositions of stalwart millionaires to those of impetuous bar rats and you will know exactly what I mean. The professional dater or green-card girl may get a couple thousand dollars from the determined millionaire, but he will recover very soon and just laugh about it; the impetuous bar rat will be more prone to give her his life savings “in the name of love,” to later regret it and do nothing more than drink away his frustration and misery.
Do not be such a fool. Your money is your money, money you’ve worked hard for to build, and you must work hard to protect it as well. No woman should have any say or influence to your nest egg, and if any Russian woman suggests you should tap into it so you can buy her a car or an apartment, close your fist and punch her squarely on the nose. That money is yours, not hers, and do not believe the baloney that “it is now our money.”
When all is said and done, if you follow this rule you can take solace for the fact that even if you crash and burn, you still came out ahead for the year. Set an easily attainable goal at the end of every year, and strive for it. Production before penetration is the goal, not penetration before production. You produce so you can prosper, and prosperity is the foundation of your inner strength. Prosperity means financial freedom, and that power is quite astonishing.
Rule #5: Be Prepared Financially To Pay Even More
Tablet of Stone #5 states, “Be sure you can financially afford to embark upon this process.” This is more than just a plane ticket, hotel, translator fees and other PRE’s (penetration-related expenses). In the event things go well, you will be paying far more later on if you want to progress from there.
As you very much know, success in any relationship requires regular communication. Suppose you fly over, hit the jackpot, or even ended up engaged, upon your return home you will have to shell out more to keep her. You will find yourself spending more money with long-distance phone bills, and calling thousands of miles is not cheap. You must also make subsequent trips and spend more quality time with her, and that adds up to even more money (duh). In the event you become betrothed, you must endure the agonizingly long K-1 process, and being up to nine or so months away from her would be a burden to your new relationship. Return at least a couple times while waiting for the K-1 process. One member, whom I will not identify, went on at least ten subsequent visits over six months and ended up selling his Porsche to afford his expensive habit. You will find yourself spending not just thousands, but tens of thousands of dollars later on.
Later on in life, if you are lucky enough to marry her and bring her home, as a wife she changes from an occasional expense to an ongoing expense. Unless she can work right away, she would be doing the necessary things to assimilate into American culture, like learning English, but she would be a financial drain to you. As a man, your responsibility is to support her during this time, so you need to make sure that you have enough money to afford this long-term expense later on. Also take into account that you will also go out for dinners and PV’s (penetration vacations) with her, so that will be even more money out of pocket.
Reverting back to Rule #4, considering that you must remember your uncompromising duty to pay yourself first, this may become an enormous financial burden to you.
Rule #6: Do not Try To Buy Her Love
Take a good, hard look at the mirror and ask yourself this question: Are you an ugly mutha?
Let’s face it, dude. We are not going to Sweden, Norway or other rich European countries to hunt for PP’s (penetration prospects) over there because in those posperous countries our buck would lose its bang. We are going to countries of the former Soviet Union because we can easily compete with the local men by virtue of favorable exchange rates. Sexy Olga wants the goods, you can buy them for her, and as long as you are willing to buy them for her, she could care less about how ugly you are. I’ve seen so many SRM’s (second-rate muthas) with young girls at the mall, and the girls are going on shopping sprees with them. Given local wages, girls work for months to buy the quality goods that cost the same here in America. Couples and families save for weeks or even months to have dinner at a nice restaurant, while for us it’s just another damned lunch at TGI Friday’s. Cannot you see how opening your wallet would easily open her legs soon after you buy her a nice dinner and a gold bracelet? She doesn’t love you, dude, she loves your money.
“Baloney!” the SRM proclaims. “She loves me for who I am, …blah, blah, blah….” Ask the SRM what he bought for her and he will either understate his spending, or blatantly lie about it. Unless he can succeed with an equally sexy girl in Luxembourg, Switzerland, Sweden or Norway–he never will–he can only win over FSU girls by virtue of MEE (maximum economic exploitation). Targeting poor girls abroad would be mutually beneficial, as SRM’s win over Sexy Olga by virtue of a favorable exchange rate, and Sexy Olga gets the goods.
The necessary amount to spend for success varies from man to man. The uglier you are, the more money you need. I’ve seen quite a few ugly muthas over there, and they shell out a lot. What you do with your money is your business, but I do have some suggestions.
By spending lavishly every day you are with her, you are setting the tone of the relationship. Initially she will feel overwhelmed when you take her out to a five-star restaurant, and after receiving jewelry and other gifts from you, she will likely be more amenable to penetration. However, this will backfire on you in due time. You shell out lots of money early on to get into her pants, and afterward she will expect the same treatment the next time you are with her, or she may expect more later on. “Give her an inch, she’ll take a mile.” She will love you for as long as the money lasts, and when the money runs out, so will she. Do not waste your time and money with such a selfish woman; instead, hire a sexy prostitute for a memorable week of mindless semen-slinging.
If you have serious intentions, seek a woman who values your company far more than the things you buy for her. You want her to love you for your character, personality, disposition and other intrinsic qualities that define you as a man, not as a source of income. You would want a woman who would be happy to screw your brains out after you buy her a Happy Meal at McDonald’s.
In the event you are fortunate enough to get engaged, you may have an issue of sending support money. First of all, if she has a job already she shouldn’t ask you for money. Secondly, if she truly is unemployed during the K-1 process, it would be wise to send her money on par with local wages. Use an independent third party to verify local wages, and send that plus perhaps a little more to be generous, but do not spoil her. If you send her five hundred dollars a month you are trying to buy her love; if she asks for one thousand dollars per month you know she is scamming you.
Rule #7: Do not Be So Gullible
Of course you want to presuppose that the woman you visit has good intentions, but do not be so foolish to assume that right away. As stated earlier, you should always remember that countries of the former Soviet Union are poor societies built on dishonesty, with liars, thieves, gangsters, prostitutes and scammers everywhere. Lying and deception are part of the way of life over there. People over there use whatever means to get money from you, honest or otherwise. Your pocket may be picked at any time, a taxi driver may gouge you for excessive fare, merchants will raise prices when they hear you speak English, and your beloved correspondent may even confess that she has already fallen in love with you. In America we consider such practices heinous, yet many people in the former Soviet Union consider scamming as clever and shrewd.
A declaration of love is the most common and effective means of extracting money from gullible SRM’s who are immediately overwhelmed upon meeting professional daters. Men with weak minds and emotions are simple targets because after a lifetime of rejection from ordinary girls in America, they feel they were destined to marry Sexy Olga, who is the light at the end of their dark and pathetically sexless tunnel of life. I would cynically remark that if something seems too good to be true, it probably is. Many SRM’s, however, would be more inclined to believe that because deep down they want to. I, on the other hand, wouldn’t be so inclined to believe everything she tells me upon first meeting her.
Discerning true intentions is quite elementary. Actions speak louder than words, so the key here is to pay less attention to what she says and more to what she does; over time her actions would reveal her true colors. If she claims at the dinner table to have fallen madly in love with you, yet she drops you off at the hotel at eight o’clock, it would be quite apparent that she is either already married or dating a local boyfriend. Also, check for inconsistencies. Does her words jive with her actions? Sincere women would be consistent throughout, so keep your eyes and ears open and trust your intuition if something isn’t right.
Rule #8: Do not Be So Accommodating
Okay, so you meet Sexy Olga for the first time and she looks just as sexy as a Dallas Cowboys cheerleader. You have never had a girlfriend with the likes of her before–and for some SRM’s, never had a girlfriend at all–and you feel that you must do everything in your power to keep her. Do everything she asks for and wants. “Yes, dear, whatever you want.”
Do not be such a wimp and act like a man, dammit! You are there on your dime and on your power, so you wear the pants in this relationship. Professional daters prey on whipped, obsequious, suicidal and Air Supply muthas so they can go on shopping sprees or Crimean vacations. Of course you want to be a nice guy, but you do not want to be too nice. Being too nice means to care more about others than yourself. Professional daters, gold diggers and Yuri all prey on nice guys. Be nice to yourself first (Rule #1), then be nice to everyone else. When professional daters realize that you have the power to say no even with your face buried in the cleavage of huge knockers, they will move on.
Even in genuine relationships, being so accommodating would evidently mean that you do not value yourself first. In that case, you seriously need to review Rules # 1 and 2. I would give you a failing grade in the School of Smooth, and I would expel you immediately. A woman needs a man’s strength, so bear that strength and quit crying on her shoulder. Do you need her to put on your diapers? Do not be such a baby, dude, you need to be strong and remain in the driver’s seat. The more you accommodate her, the more powerless you will become, and eventually she will lose interest in you and move on to a real man. The professional dater would move on after she has taken all she could from you.
Rule #9: Do not Propose If You Did Not Have Sex With Her
This is the Snow White scenario. Sexy Olga has the likes of Pamela Anderson and wears very provocative clothing, yet she wants you to believe that she is a virgin and she is saving herself for her wedding night with you. Do not be so stupid. A blind man can see she is lying through her yellow, crooked teeth. A professional dater just wants your money. She does not want to sleep with ugly muthas and would resort to that last if she believes having sex with them will open the floodgates to their hard-earned money.
Use common sense. Why would any man be stupid enough to propose marriage to a woman who does not want to have sex with him? I feel that penetration is absolutely necessary before a marriage proposal. You need to make sure that she means what she says, and not that she is playing games with your head so you can fall for her and give her anything she wants. If a woman says she loves you and wants to marry you, then dammit she needs to act that way! If she claims she has fallen in love with you, put her to the test and invite her to your hotel room or flat and make your move after a succulent dinner with fine wine. If things are going well, go with the flow and get down and dirty! After all, you didn’t fly thousands of miles so you can just shake her hand and nothing more. Even if you score with her, you will know if she really digs you by her actions in the bedroom. A woman who is very attracted to you would completely lose her inhibitions and screw your brains out. You will immediately know the way she feels about you in the bedroom when you are alone together.
Of course you do not want to rape her, but if she is insistent that she will not have sex with you until marriage, pay attention to if she plays a money game with you. If you feel that she will give signals leaning toward penetration on conditions like if you buy her jewelry, take her to the mall, buy her an expensive dinner, etc., she is just using you. If you even get to this point, the shame is on you for not detecting this earlier and extending the pay-per-view fairy tale. Quit being a foolish white knight and kick Snow White to the curb, throw garbage on top of her and ride off into the sunset with Gary Cooper.
Rule #10: Do not Be Afraid To Walk Away
There comes a point when the best decision would be to throw in the towel and bail out. There are endless reasons why you would not want to be involved anymore. You could have a selfish woman who doesn’t respect you. You could catch the woman in a lie, or see flagrant inconsistencies in her actions. Your woman could prove that she is bossy and wants to be in control of the relationship at your time and expense. Your woman may have a real-life boyfriend or husband on the side and is just plain using you. Even if she has sincere intentions, perhaps you two are simply not a good match for each other. There is no point in staying with such a woman, and the best thing to do is not waste any more time and money and just leave her.
Like firing a bad employee, dumping a woman is not a pleasant experience for anybody, yet a necessary thing to do. People have different ways of coping with a breakup, and you need to find one that works best for you. Women here in America have this adage: “The best way for a girl to get over a guy is to get under another one.” You would be leaving a bad woman for now, but later on you may find an even better woman for you. You know very much that being in love is a state of mind, and that you can share that experience with any other woman. Screw the romantic notion of “one and only one.” How do you know that the woman you’re in love with now will be the same woman you will be in love with five years from now? Possibilities are endless, and the fact of the matter is that there are millions of other women in the world who would love to be with you–unless you’re a real ugly mutha, in which case you’d only have a few hundred instead. Regardless, you must do what is right for you and say goodbye.
Once you’ve made the decision to leave her, be a man and drop her like a useless brick. This may be hard to do if you are so attracted to her, but a man who loves himself more would have no problem ditching any selfish shrew who would contribute nothing good to his life. Dumping a woman who is nothing more than an emotional and financial drain to you would be a case of following Rules #1 and 2. Think of it this way: if your professional dater or gold digger has tried to scam you before, how do you know she will not try to scam you again? Breaking up and recovering will all depend on your inner strength. Having the courage to leave a very beautiful woman shows her your strength she can feel. Throwing her overboard may help her realize what she’s done, and later on regret for the rest of her life because you will have never looked back.
So there you have it. These rules would help you weed out the professional daters and gold diggers. These Tablets Of Smooth are not intended for marriage, but to develop a fortress of inner strength so that you would be impervious to professional daters and gold diggers. Stay aware of these rules and you would not be a pushover, as dishonest girls would not waste much time with you. The result: you eliminate the girls with hidden agendas, so you can enjoy much quality time with the sincere ones. Always remember to a have fun time while you are there with them.
That wraps up the Tablets Of Stone. We would like to thank Smooth Operator once again for his willingness to share this lengthy and controversial series, and hope that you enjoyed it.
